Whether right or wrong, in most divorces involving child custody matters judges tend to award primary custody to the mother. For Tennessee fathers, hoping to be the main custodial parent, this biasness towards always assuming the mother is the best care provider, can be extremely frustrating.
When going through a divorce and seeking child custody, there are certain behaviors a father should avoid engaging in. Assuming a father is a responsible, involved and loving parent adhering to the following tips can greatly improve the likelihood of being awarded additional time with your child.
Keep your cool: As difficult as it may be, remain calm and cordial when communicating with your ex-wife. A vindictive ex can easily claim they are afraid and file a protective order which can sabotage your chances of gaining additional custody rights for good.
Remain single: Introducing children to a new girlfriend or moving in together is not looked upon favorably by most ex-wives, children or family law judges.
Self-censor: Remember the old adage; if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything? This is especially true when going through a divorce and attempting to gain child custody. Don't trash your ex to anyone, especially your children.
Keep communication lines open: Communicate with your ex about your children and their wellbeing regularly. Also make sure to allow your children to communicate with your ex even when it's your turn to be the primary parent.
Remain local: Don't take the kids out of the local area without notifying your ex. While excursions to neighboring cities or areas may seem fun, it's very important that both parents are informed and in agreement when they occur.
While following the above-mentioned rules don't guarantee a father will be awarded primary or additional custody rights, when followed, they help both parents get along and be better parents to their children.
Source: The Huffington Post, "Ways to Sabotage Child Custody," Joseph E. Cordell, Apr. 2, 2012