If you remember your childhood fondly, you want to ensure that your children will enjoy a similar recollection, even if they must first adjust to your divorce. One of your initial responsibilities as divorced parents will be to help your children transition between a new home and what they may think of as home base, the place where they grew up.
When one of you moves into a new home, you will want to make it comfortable for them when they visit, a home they will eventually warm to in this new, post-divorce chapter in their lives.
It would be great if the kids can have their own bedrooms in the new place, but they should at least have some space they can call their own. Closet space, shelf space and even desk space that is theirs alone will make them feel more at home. Personal space also means time to themselves for a bit, which can be especially important when they first arrive for their visit with you.
Make sure there are favorite toys, games or sports equipment at the new home. A young child may want to carry a favorite stuffed animal back and forth, so you will want to see that it is not forgotten in transit. A night light may be important, or a framed picture set just so on a night stand. Be alert to the little things that are important to each of the children.
Consistency and routine
Children need consistency, and they get along better if they have structure and routine in their daily lives. Similar rules should be set up in both homes: when to do homework, what time to go to bed and what chores each child should be responsible for.
No matter how you as divorced parents feel toward one another, the welfare of your children should be your top priority. If you can agree on a plan that will ease their transition between two homes, great. If you face ongoing problems and frustrations, reach out for advice. An attorney experienced with family law and situations just like yours is standing by to help.