Most people you ask would answer say that a marriage ending in divorce is not a “success.” This is primarily because they’re viewing marriage by the benchmarks of “until death do us part” and “happily ever after.” However, family and relationship counselors have a more optimistic way of viewing a marriage that ends in divorce because they’re looking at things from the perspective of personal growth.
In fact, every relationship — even the ones that end — can be viewed as successful because of the things we learn about ourselves while going through the coupling and uncoupling process. On couple’s therapist goes as far as to say that marriage is actually designed to assist couples in growing. Sometimes, however, the individual spouses grow so much that they grow away from each other or right out of the relationship.
Rather than fearing a changing relationship, couples should embrace it and see where it leads. If that change leads to a ‘decoupling,’ then as much as the divorce hurts, couples should also try to keep their eyes on the bright side. “We don’t get married so we can grow, but honestly, it’s one of the best laboratories to do that,” one relationship counselor is quoted as saying.
If you have reached the end of the line in your marriage, and it’s time to bring your relationship to a close, you might want to do everything you can to bring your relationship to an end peacefully and respectfully. This will help you reduce stress and save a tremendous amount of money during the dissolution of your marriage.