Divorcing is tough on most people, even when both they and their spouse agree to divorce. Divorces can be challenging because of how many assets you have to separate and because of the arrangements you have to make for your children or others you care for in your home.
There are several things that people do that could hurt or help their cases. Here are three things you should do as well as three you should not.
The big don’ts
- Don’t get aggressive
The first thing not to do is to become aggressive. While you may want to stand your ground, you don’t want to call your spouse names, be violent or be unwilling to work with them. Those issues will look bad in the eyes of the court.
- Don’t go no-contact
Usually, it’s not for the best to go no-contact with your attorney or your ex when you’re overwhelmed by the divorce. While it may be okay to wait a few hours before replying to a text, phone call or email, avoiding the divorce could end up meaning that you miss important deadlines.
- Don’t start dating
Don’t start dating as soon as you and your spouse separate. Dating can complicate matters for everyone, so it’s best to hold off until your divorce is finalized whenever possible.
The helpful do’s
There are some things that are helpful that you can do, too.
- Do be respectful
Do your best to be respectful to your spouse, their attorney and others involved in your case. First impressions matter, and you want to be on the judge’s good side.
- Do be reasonable
Try to be reasonable. Working out a separation agreement isn’t always easy, but it’s important for you to know what you need versus what you want. Knowing when to settle is key.
- Do ask for help when you need it
Finally, do ask for help if you need it. Divorces can be overwhelming, but you can ask for legal help, accounting support and more to make it easier for you.
These are six things to remember to do or not do during your divorce. With patience, you’ll get through this change in your life.