Going through a divorce comes with extra challenges when you have children. As a parent, you want to support your children’s growth and well-being while also moving on from your previous marriage.
Successful co-parenting after a divorce is possible with planning, communication and patience.
Co-parenting and communication
It can be challenging to communicate openly with your ex-spouse, especially soon after a difficult divorce. However, being able to discuss your children openly and respectfully is key when you are co-parenting from two different households. Try other communication methods, such as e-mail or texting, if you struggle with verbal conversations. Furthermore, you should avoid communication through your children as proxies instead of talking with your former spouse directly.
When speaking with your ex, emphasize factual information regarding education, health and other important facets of your children’s lives. Bringing up personal matters, finances or your divorce during these conversations can complicate your ability to co-parent effectively.
Navigating custody arrangements
Whether you and your ex-spouse share joint physical custody or one parent is the primary custodian, it is crucial to develop arrangements that promote your children’s needs and aspirations. A consistent and predictable schedule can help your children adjust to life after your divorce. Consider using a shared calendar to inform the children and your former spouse of future plans and events. Planning around your children’s school schedule, activities and hobbies can help you prioritize their interests.
By practicing honesty and putting your children’s needs first, you can develop a respectful, nurturing co-parent dynamic after your divorce.
